The Power of Story
32January 27, 2013 by David

Last Friday I gave a TED Talk at TEDxOU, which I have been preparing for over the past few months. Many TED organizers describe the ideal TED Talk as “the talk of your life,” something – a story, an argument, an invention – which is in some way novel and which lays out your soul bare for the world to see and consider. That’s a pretty tall order, isn’t it? Throughout my preparation I tried to think of what my story could be, what I have to offer the world. At times it was frustrating. What could I, a college student with barely any life experience under my belt, possibly have to tell the world?
I spent hours upon hours and days upon days working with this speech, pulling it apart and shaping it to tell my story just right. In fact I stayed up late into the night hours before my presentation, editing and practicing and editing some more until I was too tired to stay awake any longer. Despite all that practicing and editing, in all of the iterations of my speech, and in all of the times I rehearsed it, I never gave it quite like I gave it on stage in front of hundreds of people.
I don’t know why I wasn’t nervous, but I wasn’t. I hardly even noticed who was in the audience; I don’t remember the little nuances and variations that arise every time you give performance, because all I remember was that I was thinking about my life. I was thinking about the story I was telling and how just several weeks ago I didn’t even think I had one to tell. Yet there I was, on stage, sharing it with the world.
And then it hit me, a realization that for some reason I had never considered before. A realization so powerful and so profound that in the few days since it struck me, it has changed the way I view my existence. And it is this: Your story is worth telling because it is your story. No one in the whole world – no one in all of human history – has your story to tell; and no one can tell it quite like you. And whether or not people can relate to it, it is worth telling because it is unique. Because you are unique.
That is the power of story. Not only can it inspire others and give them permission to tell their stories, it can give you the perspective you need to see your life in full scope. I viewed my life as a collection of incidences, not yet full enough or long enough to warrant telling. But when I viewed it as a story, albeit one that I am still living out, I saw life a little differently. And it was all in the way I looked at things, all because I read my story. Maybe it’s time to read yours.


congrats!
Thank you very much! Whenever the video gets posted online, I will be sure to copy a link here for you to see.
excellent
I will be posting the video on this site next week, but if you’d like to watch it before then you can find it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsPo1gVcfkg
thank you!
Congrats! I love watching TED talks ever since I discovered it last year. Everyone’s story deserves to be heard.
Somehow I missed this comment! But I agree 100%. It was a great thing to realize that everyone has their own, unique story to tell. I will be posting my TED Talk on this blog early next week, but if you’d like to see it before then you can find it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsPo1gVcfkg
I’ve never heard of these talks before. Will check them out. Maybe you should publish your son your blog. Would love to read it!
I will definitely post a link to the video whenever it gets put online. Check out TED.com for more talks!
I will be publishing mine on this blog early next week, but until then you can find it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsPo1gVcfkg
I just watched it! Excellent job. You preface a topic that is near and dear to my heart—education. Fellow blogger, Scott Martin wrote a post about education, to which I replied with an essay of my thoughts on the topic. I am college educated but adventured into three venues with my own children, due to my disappointment with our educational system. If I copy and paste them to you will you read and give me your thoughts? You might find we are onto something together. It was refreshing to hear what you said. Maybe your generation can actually do something. It gave me great hope to hear your thoughts.
I think you bring up some valid points. My only disagreement would be the idea that they should start some level of professional training in high school. In my personal experience, very few people are ready to begin that pursuit in high school. Sure, including some business, economics, or other higher-level classes in the college curriculum would be good practice, but hardly anyone I know is ready to choose their career in high school. I am three months away from my Bachelor’s degree and I’m not ready to choose. (Granted, I’m going for a law degree after I graduate.) However, I agree with your general point that education on ALL levels is not personalized enough for each individual.
Have you read any of Sir Ken Robinson’s books? He has a few TED Talks as well, which are just my favorite. I think you would enjoy him.
I will check him out. I agree not all are ready but can we not begin to prepare them even in middle school? Get them thinking toward that? Set them exploring? There are those select few geniuses that are ready. Turn them loose in some way. Find some way to target the writers, the artists, the technicians, the doctors, etc. Test them and let them discover their true talents and passions. Set them loose from the desk a lot more. I will watch the video. Just tossing around ideas. What we’re doing is just not working and it’s pointless to keep it as is. “Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.” As the world changes, our education system must adapt or we will be at the bottom.
I agree 100% with giving students the opportunity to explore. I think that is the most valuable learning skill we can give them: the passion to discover things in the world and learn about them.
I’ve never heard of TED talks. Looks like I need to Google …
It’s a perfect way to waste hours of your life without actually wasting hours of your life.
Love this perspective. Everyone DOES have a story and it’s owned entirely by them. It may not be glamorous or even exciting but it’s thrilling in it’s originality!
That’s exactly right! I think all it takes is a little motivation, as well as a little courage.
This is so true! We all have a story. Thanks for the inspiration!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Fantastic realization, and thank you for sharing! I enjoy memoirs and printed journals for this reason, to catch glimpses of others’ lives. Summer in Baden-Baden (by Leonid Tsypkin) isn’t strictly nonfiction, but nevertheless an interesting glimpse at lives’ intersections. It’s worth, too, reading Sontag’s introduction, which adds a layer of wonder to the tale, I think.
I will have to check that out. Thanks for the recommendation.
Congrats. Look forward to watching it – here at Campari and Sofa we have a soft spot for Ted Talks. And if that was the point of your talk, I am glad it got made. How right you are
Thank you! I’ll have to come by and look around your site :)
By the way, my TED Talk has now been posted online at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsPo1gVcfkg
Will do immediately. Thanks for letting us know
I will Sum this up quickly…GREAT WORK
Thank you very much! Glad you enjoyed it.
Yes, our stories are unique to ourselves. I never worry about telling the stories of my life, but I am old. You have an unique perspective for a young person. I enjoyed your post very much.
I think, for young people, our age sort of restricts our ability to tell our life stories. Or at least it seems to do that. Since we haven’t lived long enough to see the arc of our lives play out across many years, we can’t fully see where our story is headed or what it means. But I do think that if we look at our lives really carefully, we can at least make a good guess. It’s important that everyone looks at their life story. If we don’t like what the ending seems to be, then we can change it.
This is precisely why at GOLDENROOM Online Journal for Cross Cultural Relations http://www.goldenroom.co.uk we place such an emphasis on people sharing their cross cultural experiences, their view of being of dual heritage or in a mixed faith relationship, etc. No one else is better qualified, and it is profoundly helpful to see your own experiences reflected and represented in someone else’s narrative.
Glad to see people sharing stories! Keep up the great work.